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Beyond Today Program -"Suicide: Is There Hope?

Suicide: Understanding and Preventing It

He's suicidal. What can I do?

Are There Examples of Depression in the Bible?

Are Those Who Commit Suicide Forever Condemned?

Suicide: Escape, Road to Hell or Neither?

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Beyond Today Program - "Suicide: Is There Hope?"

Discover the Bible’s amazing answer regarding people who take their lives and for those left behind who cope with sorrow.

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[Richard] In reading through his letters, his poetry, he treasured our family and I think that’s part of the reason it kinda hurts because he never talked to us before committing suicide.

[Darris McNeely] Richard lost his son to suicide several years ago.

Chances are you know someone who took their own life.

Why did they do it? Have you wondered, “What is the eternal fate of someone who commits suicide?”

And perhaps you, too, have thought about taking your own life. What led you to the precipice? What brought you back?

Join us on Beyond Today as we look at the shocking reality of suicide and ask, “Is There Hope?”

[Announcer] Join our host Darris McNeely on Beyond Today!

[Darris] I am going to talk today about a very difficult subject—suicide. Chances are that suicide has touched you. A relative, a friend, or a co-worker has made the ultimate decision to take their own life. I was a freshman in college when suicide first impacted my life. My English teacher, a young woman in her first teaching assignment, did not show up for class one day. The department supervisor told us the news. You’re shocked. You’re stunned and you ask, “Why?” But you don’t always know why.

Let’s look at the unsettling statistics about suicide. They are very shocking.

Every year in America 30,000 people make the decision to end their life. Now that’s the equivalent of 100 jumbo jets just falling out of the sky. It’s an epidemic.

According to a report released in April 2016 by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, the U.S. suicide rate has risen sharply over the past 15 years—by nearly 24%. This contrasts to a decline in the previous 15 years. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. And suicide rates are rising faster than common killers such as heart disease and cancer. The same report shows that the suicide rate continues to climb.

So what leads a person to commit suicide? What are the emotions that drives the young adult to end their life before they’ve really begun? What causes a woman to lose all hope and then take that final step looking for release from deep pain and suffering?

As a lifelong pastor working with those impacted by suicide, I have had to help the people left behind. I have helped them grope for understanding and a sense of putting their lives back together after the shock, the anger, the sadness and all that forms in the wake of a suicide. I have also had the challenge of helping those who failed in their attempt to end their life.

In all cases it comes down to the one great question: “Is life worth living?”

There are two important aspects to suicide that are critical to understand. First, there is hope for those who are left behind and there is hope for the loved one who has ended their life.

I think this is best told through the story of one family whose son and brother, Ryan, decided one night to end his life. Ryan’s father, Richard, agreed to sit down with us and to tell the story of how his family coped with the saddest news anyone could ever imagine receiving.

I asked Richard to tell us about his son, Ryan.

[Richard] My son Ryan was a very wonderful person, very caring. I loved his hugs. He played a guitar in a Christian band. He loved God for many years, when he was younger. He was a person of many talents. He was a writer; had some work published in various venues, had a play done in his senior year in high school that he had written. He loved writing. He loved music and he loved people.

[Darris] Everything was looking up in Ryan’s life. He had a new job on the horizon. He was moving back home to Ohio and he was in close contact with his family.

Ryan was 22 years old. A talented young man with his life ahead of him. For whatever reason and with no previous indication, he decided he could not cope with life and made the decision so many others make when they come to this crossroads.

For a person at that moment the answer to the great question, “Is life worth living?” is already answered with a resounding “No.”

How does the family react to the news? Richard explains how he and his wife reacted when they received the news. They had a five-hour drive to the hospital. They were in touch with the hospital and along the way authorized the donation of his organs. Would they make it in time to see him alive?

[Richard] He had a job that he had already been accepted for, that he had applied for in a field that he really enjoyed. And, so we talked for a little while. He seemed very upbeat. And this was about probably 7:30 at night, 8 o’clock at night. And afterwards, we hung up. He said, well I’ll see you this weekend. So, we finished off the rest of that evening. My wife and I, and my two daughters, we went to bed. And then at about 2 in the morning we received the call. And it was very difficult being woken up at that time of night in a fog and when you hear the phone call and somebody says—and at that time my son wasn’t dead yet. And they said, “Your son—there’s been an accident. I am the police department. Your son is in the hospital. He doesn’t look like he is going to make it though. You might want to come down as quickly as you can.”

[Darris] Ryan died in the hospital before Richard and his wife arrived. Now they had to pick up and move on with their life and begin the long painful process of grieving, anger and acceptance.

[Richard] I remember, I mean it’s just a shock. You’re totally in shock. You’re numb. You feel like even after you’ve woken up, you feel like you are in a fog. And we had a two-story house and I came down from our bedroom and just went into the living room and just cried. And just, “my son, my son, my son.” You just can’t take it in.

[Darris] When a person takes their life, those who are left behind begin to sort through the conversations and all the memories looking for any sign or a hint that could have been a warning of what was to come. Could the tragedy have been prevented? Is there something I did or we did that caused this?

I asked Richard if they had any warning.

[Richard] We saw absolutely no signs. We, his roommate said that there were no indications. He had seen him just, a very short period before he left in his car—no indications at all. He had gone to work that day—no indications of anything. Several other people had actually talked to him that day—his friends, because he was excited about coming home. And so he had contacted a few people locally. And he, so there was no indication. He’d never had any indication prior to this. He was not a depressed person at all.

[Darris] Of all the emotions stirred by suicide, anger is one that eventually surfaces among those who were close to the victim. “How could they do this!” “Why?!” In their despair, the person does not realize how many lives they impact. Tears and sorrow often mask deep anger and must come out. Richard and his family were no exception.

[Richard] There’s anger. When you go through suicide and that person affects you closely, you’ve got anger towards them, because often they don’t realize the impact that they have on people. And you’re mad partially, at least I was partially at that, because knowing Ryan his thoughts would have been, that, “oh hey, don’t worry about me. I chose this. I’ve decided this. Go on and have a happy life.” But when you do that, you hurt people for the rest of their life.

[Darris] It’s a different kind of anger and it involves everyone in the family.

[Richard] He’s got two sisters who were deeply hurt. And you know, we were mad at him. How could he do this to us? How could he not have even talked to us about it? That mad—it’s different than you might have going through some other—like maybe deaths. You might be mad at God if there is a death by an auto accident let’s say, or cancer or something like that. But in this case, you just really get mad at the person. I mean even now, my wife and the kids, we sometimes will say, “you know when we see Ryan again, the first thing we are going to do is we are going to kick him. And then we will give him the biggest hug he’s ever had!”

[Darris] It’s hard for parents to lose a child like this. Richard talked much about that. He said that though it’s hard, it’s easier for an adult to process. His two daughters were at a very young, impressionable age. Especially his youngest daughter who had the same friends as Ryan in school. It has been very hard for the siblings to process their anger and their emotions, and it can take many years for a family to cope after a suicide.

[Richard] I almost feel a sibling losing a brother or a sister, especially somebody they really looked up to is almost more difficult. Because it’s at a very—especially when they are at a young, impressionable stage of life. I’ve got two daughters. One is a year and a half years older than Ryan was, one’s about two years younger than Ryan was. And the younger one really looked up to Ryan—liked to be around his friends, thought the world of him. The older one, of course, thought a lot of him too, but I think there was a little bit more brother-sister rivalry between the two of them. But my younger daughter, just absolutely—I won’t say quite idolized but very important in her life. I think it really hit her—very difficult. And she was in school around many of the friends. So she was almost reminded in many ways even more so of his death.

But both of them took it very difficult, very hard. And even to this day, it is hard on them. I think even harder than us as parents. There’s something that they’re missing that they don’t have. And they’ve got to live through their whole life with that.

[Darris] And then there is the question of anger toward God. “If God is all powerful,” some will say, “how does He allow the evil and the suffering that leads good people, young people, to take their lives?” I asked Richard if he wrestled with this and how he handled the anger with God.

[Richard] I didn’t, because I realized that he chose this and God has a way to take care of this. He’s got a plan. He’s got a future and so I didn’t feel angry at God.

[Darris] In these highly-charged emotional times, God very often gets the blame for the bad that has occurred. But it is important to take a step back. Don’t be too quick to blame God. God is near but He is not the one to blame.

After anger comes the devastating emotion called guilt. Guilt is a debilitating and a very crippling emotion. It’s an emotion that burrows deep within us and it eats away at life. If we don’t get control of guilt, it will destroy us.

I asked Richard if there was guilt and how did they handle it.

[Richard] There’s going to be guilt. As I said, you try to figure out what could have I done that would’ve changed things. What could have I done in our life to have made things different, even short-term or long-term.

We moved while he was in high school. We’ve sometimes thought, what would have it been like had we not moved? Would his set of friends been different? Would he, may not have found himself in those circumstances? So you do. You do feel a certain amount of guilt and you try to process that, especially at the start. Trying to figure out, what could have I changed to make it—the circumstances to not have occurred. And some of that is just to have made the circumstances to not have occurred—not just a different person, but could I have done something differently?

You’ve got to come to the point where you realize that I really did the best I could. And, I can’t go back and change the past. But what I can do is still live life now. I’ve still got two daughters, wonderful daughters. They’ve grown up to be beautiful examples of daughters, and of wives and of mothers and that’s one thing that we realized shortly after. And that my wife and I discussed was: we’ve got two daughters. They’re still alive. They still need our help, and they still have a life ahead of them.

[Darris] Fortunately for Richard’s family, they came out on the other side of guilt and accepted what happened. They came to peace with themselves that they had done all they could do.

Shock, anger, guilt and acceptance. These are stepping stones along the path called recovery from such a shocking calamity of life. No family should have to go through the experience. But all who do will have to cope with the aftermath and all the emotions and the questions that arise.

A person who commits suicide has answered the great question, “Is life worth living?” They’ve lost all hope and no one or no drug can help them cope with the despair that descends on their heart. It is an unbearable burden from which only death can give release.

Those who have to pick up the pieces and deal with the aftermath, have to have hope to carry on and come to acceptance. As we have seen from Richard and his family, that hope is in God and in God’s plan for mankind. God’s plan includes the hope of a resurrection from the dead. Richard’s son, Ryan will rise in a resurrection and rejoin his father and mother and his sisters.

Christ spoke about the hope of the resurrection in one of the great episodes from His life. In John’s gospel chapter 11, we read of Christ’s close friend Lazarus being sick and dying before Christ could get to the home in Bethany. Christ had said his illness was to glorify God (John 11:4). When Christ arrived at the home of Lazarus, he was told by Martha, his sister, that he had been dead for four days. “But even now,” she said, “I know that whatever You ask of God, God will give You.”

To which Jesus said, “Your brother will rise again.”

And Martha replied, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.”

And Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?”

And Martha replied, “Yes, Lord, I believe that You are the Christ, the Son of God, who is to come into the world” (John 11:25-27).

Then Christ went to the tomb of Lazarus and in a loud voice, He commanded Lazarus to come forth. It was an astonishing and undeniable miracle to show the power of God and the hope of the resurrection.

It is this hope of the resurrection of the dead that is the key to dealing with the heartrending impact of suicide.

For Richard and his family, it is this hope that has allowed them to rebuild a life and to carry on.

[Richard] Our hope is the assurance that Christ is going to return and that He has promised us that our, our son, my son, is going to be resurrected. He’s going to come back to life and we’ll see him again. And that’s what allows us to keep going on. It allows us to look forward to the future as the assurance that we’ve got Christ’s Word on that.

The resurrection of our son, that resurrection is what allows us to put our life—that part of our life—on hold, carry on with our current life, with our two daughters, and our life and move forward in our life. Because we know right now that our son is waiting for the resurrection and it’s going to happen. And at that time, we’ll be able to continue from where we left off. But he’ll be in a better place at that time.

[Darris] But you may be saying right now, “I don’t have that hope.” You may not believe or if you do believe you may feel shaken and unsure in the face of suicide.

It is the hope of the resurrection that lifts us beyond the tragedy of the moment. The apostle Paul wrote about the resurrection to a church reeling from the death of its members and needing the same help.

He wrote, “But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus...For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven...And the dead in Christ will rise first… Therefore” he said, “comfort one another with these words” (1 Thessalonians 4:13-17).

I asked Richard, what he would pass on to someone who lost a loved one to suicide. What advice that would help them to move on...

[Richard] My wife and I talk about this once in a while when we talk about our son and we talk about that hope of the future and that’s what keeps us going. But we’ve often said at that time, for those that don’t have that hope, or for those who aren’t sure of where their family member is going or a friend after death—whether they are going to heaven or going to hell or going to a place of purgatory, especially with suicide. Which in many cases, that’s a quandary in the religious world of what happens to that person.

We’ve said, I don’t’ know how we’d carry on. But when you look at the Bible and you read what’s written in it, and you read the hope that’s there and the assurance of that hope, it all becomes clear that there is a future. And I can give them my hope. l can tell them of my hope. We’ve talked to a few people who’ve had suicides in the family and I can give them the hope of that resurrection. And, if they can believe that, it gives them hope. And I know those that do believe that. It does give them great hope.

[Darris] Suicide is often a complex matter. Don’t be too quick to judge or to condemn people who take their own lives and avoid the tendency to oversimplify this tragic type of death. Individuals who commit suicide often have been struggling with serious problems, such as depression, alcoholism or other forms of drug abuse. Taking one’s life isn’t the right way to deal with any trial, but the people who do—are not thinking clearly.

If you are one who finds yourself at that point, I say to you take one more chance with life. Choose life for one more day. Get help. You can climb out of the dark hole of despair and make a new and better life. God wants you to “choose life!” That’s always the best choice.

If you need to talk to someone, don’t hesitate to contact a local suicide prevention hotline. And if you want to discuss this further and gain deeper spiritual insight into your needs then contact us here at Beyond Today. You can also contact one of our trained ministers who would be very willing to talk with you and give youspiritual counseling.

The Bible talks about a time when sorrow and tears will disappear from human experience. The book of Revelation speaks of a time when a new heaven and a new earth will be established. It says, “God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying... There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:1-4).

Let’s all look forward to that time of healing and restoration. For those who are suffering now, with depression and contemplating suicide or coping with the loss of a loved one to this horrible tragedy, there is light and hope and available now a way out of darkness—a way of hope and healing. God tells us: “You will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:13).

Our hope, our prayer is that you may find God and heal your broken spirit.

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[Darris] We have shown with Richard’s story that a family struck with the loss of a loved one can cope and work through the trauma to rebuild a life. We have also seen the biblical hope of the resurrection. God’s plan for man involves a resurrection that includes those who have committed suicide. They are not lost. A suicide victim has the hope of the dead, a resurrection to life and the opportunity to fulfill their God-ordained purpose.

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Suicide: Understanding and Preventing It

You should be prepared help someone through difficult times, depression or even suicidal thoughts. This study aid provides a biblical perspective on these issues. The loved ones of a suicide victim need to understand what the Bible reveals—there will be life after death for that person and he will have his opportunity to qualify for eternal life in God’s Kingdom.

The call came one night in late October of 2011. My wife handed me the receiver, and the voice on the other end identified himself as a deputy of the San Miguel County, Colorado, sheriff’s department.

He was calling to let me know they had found the pickup truck belonging to my younger brother Keith out on Uncompahgre Plateau—a lonely, remote, windswept upland in southwestern Colorado. At least now there would be a measure of closure. But those of us in the family were left to ponder why he made such a devastating choice. We were aware of the loneliness, the fears and, more than anything else, the depression that had tormented him since adolescence. But suicide?

He called me a few days before his disappearance to tell me he had made his decision. He was not going to end up, as he put it, “a lonely, scared, sick old man,” but would, he said, end it all at a time of his choosing, and in a way and place where we would never find his remains.

I guess I never really believed he would do it, although he had talked about it often during the times he felt down—the times he felt his life was spinning out of control. Looking back now, I wish I had understood suicide better and what drives a person to take his own life.

In the following months I studied the subject of suicide, and I want to share with you what I’ve learned. You might know of someone—a family member, friend or acquaintance—who’s on the verge of doing the unthinkable. It’s my hope that what I learned will help prevent this tragedy from happening to someone you know.

Suicide: a growing scourge

Tragically suicide is on the increase across the United States, claiming more than 42,000 lives in 2014 and making it a greater killer than motor vehicle accidents or homicides. Figures from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention reveal that every 15 minutes suicide claims another life. It’s the fourth leading cause of death for adults ages 18 to 65.

Particularly devastating to those 18 to 24, it is their third leading cause of death, and the second highest for college students. Since 1990, more young people have died of suicide than from AIDS, cancer, pneumonia, influenza, birth defects and heart disease combined.

Suicide among children is increasing at an alarming rate. The National Mental Health Association reports that suicide is the sixth leading cause of death among children ages 5 to 15. Between 1980 and 1996 the suicide rate among children 10 to 14 increased by more than 100 percent.

A 2004 survey of high school students showed that more than 24 percent had seriously considered suicide in the past year—up from 20 percent in 1997, according to a New York University study.

Suicide is a national tragedy, and it’s getting worse. It’s increasingly essential that we become informed on the causes and how to find help. Someday you may be in a position to help prevent a suicide. This knowledge may make the difference.

Depression: the big killer

While the pressures of modern life have accelerated its frequency, suicide also took its toll in ancient times. The overwhelming urge to take one’s own life has addicted people of every nation, culture, religion and governmental system through the ages.

As Kay Redfield Jamison puts it in her heralded study on suicide, Night Falls Fast: “No one knows who was the first to slash his throat with a piece of flint, take a handful of poison berries, or intentionally drop his spear to the ground in battle. Nor do we know who first jumped impulsively, or after thought, from a great cliff, walked without food into an ice storm, or stepped into the sea with no intention of coming back.”

However, while suicide can be the end result of financial reverse, romantic failure or the discovery of terminal illness, the majority of suicide deaths trace back to one major reason: deep, debilitating depression. By “depression” we mean serious, long-lasting despondency and feelings of hopelessness, not mere discouragement, sorrow or having the “blues” (although lengthy discouragement can sometimes deteriorate into serious depression).

Estimates are that one in ten Americans suffers from chronic depression. The rate is higher among women, and while men’s depression rate had been thought to be less than half that of women, new estimates put it higher. The worst forms of clinical depression consume their victims, making them unable to face each new day.

Attitudes about depression keep many who suffer from ever seeking help. National Mental Health Association figures show that more than half of Americans think depression is a personal weakness, a sign of failure. Despite years of TV bombardment about depression remedies, four out of five suffering from depression do not seek treatment. The primary reason? They are too embarrassed to seek help.

Concerns about masculinity and self-image keep most severely depressed men from seeking help. In his 2003 national bestseller I Don’t Want to Talk About It, psychotherapist Terrance Real talks about what he terms “the cultural cover-up about depression in men”:

“One of the ironies about male depression is that the very forces that help create it keep us from seeing it. Men are not supposed to be vulnerable. Pain is something we are to rise above . . . We tend not to recognize depression in men because the disorder itself is seen to be unmanly.

“Depression carries, to many, a double stain—the stigma of mental illness and the stigma of ‘feminine’ emotionality’” (p. 22). This stigma is especially prevalent among African-American men with severe depression. Tragically, only 8 percent ever seek help.

Depression claims victims from every social strata, every IQ and every religion. Fame and fortune are no antidotes for the urge to kill oneself, and famous suicides make a very long list. The sad fact is, many of society’s more gifted artists, writers, scientists, athletes, politicians and businessmen have taken their own lives. Severe depression has pushed many others to the brink of suicide, although they backed away before going over the edge.

British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, one of the most famous and powerful national leaders of the 20th century, suffered from depression. His fits of depression could last for weeks, and to combat them he drove himself with his work, often denying his body needed rest and relaxation.

He's suicidal. What can I do?

When suicide takes a family member or friend, the common reaction is to ask, “What could I have done?” Family members agonize, playing over and over in their minds their last few days and weeks with their loved one, wondering what they could have done differently.

As Jamison puts it: “Suicide is a death like no other, and those left behind to struggle with it must confront a pain like no other. They are left with the shock and the unending ‘what ifs’ . . . They are left to a bank of questions from others . . . mostly about why? They are left to the silence of others who are horrified, embarrassed, or otherwise unable to cobble together a note of condolence, an embrace, or a comment; and they are left with the assumption . . . that more could have been done.”

Since the suicidal often refuse to seek help, mental health experts point out the crucial need for intervention on the part of family and friends. They have to watch for signs of suicidal behavior and seek help, such as mental health professionals and suicide prevention centers, on behalf of those tormented.

The good news is that nearly eight out of ten patients with depressive illness will improve through treatment with medicine and therapy, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. And if the patient is receptive to learning what the Bible has to say, he will likely experience significant help from learning what it truly teaches. In John 8:32, Jesus Christ said, “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

Knowledge is power, says Jamison, who recommends that family and friends of the suicidal educate themselves about clinical depression and its effects, the ways to treat depression and the courses of action to be taken.

If someone is threatening suicide, take steps to calm the individual and get trained suicide prevention experts involved as soon as possible. Two respected groups, the National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Association, a Chicago-based support group, and the Mayo Clinic, make the following recommendations:

• Take suicide threats seriously.

• Involve other people, especially if someone is threatening imminent suicide. Call 911 or the National Suicide Prenvention Lifeline (800) 273-8255

• If the person has sought professional help, contact his or her therapist, psychiatrist, crisis intervention team, or others who are already familiar with the case.

• Question the person about his or her suicidal thoughts. Be direct—ask if the person has a specific plan for suicide.

• Reassure the person that the problem can be helped. Remind him or her that help is available and things will get better.

• Don’t promise confidentiality, because you may need to speak to the person’s doctor to protect him or her. Don’t make promises that would endanger the person’s life.

• Avoid leaving the person alone until you can be sure he or she is in the hands of competent professionals.

The goal is immediate intervention—actions to prevent an impending disaster. But a long-term objective is also important. Having a purpose in life is perhaps the strongest antidote to feelings of hopelessness and despondency. God has a purpose for every human life, and we’ll discuss that in a moment. (To find out more about it, be sure to read our study guide Why Were You Born?)

And this can’t be overemphasized: If you think the person is suicidal based on the way he is talking or acting, you need professional help to handle the situation. Get that help as quickly as possible.

Realize also that this person may need hospitalization until the suicidal crisis has passed.

And the crisis may not be over just because the person shows some improvement.

Jamison advises a contingency planning meeting involving the suicidal person, family members or friends, and the therapist to decide on future courses of action should the person again become suicidal. Jamison advises parents of high school or college students who show signs of depression to discuss these matters openly and matter-of-factly. Parents should encourage their children to feel comfortable in discussing their depression or suicidal feelings and seeking help.

Are There Examples of Depression in the Bible?

The Bible relates examples of depression of various kinds. It shows that depression and related emotional problems can afflict both those who follow God and those who don’t.

In the Old Testament, God allowed Satan to afflict the righteous Job with the loss of his family and virtually everything he owned, and then to attack his body with painful boils. (God allowed this for a long-ranged purpose.)

Job 3 shows this faithful man’s deep depression and desire to die:

“May the day perish on which I was born, and the night in which it was said ‘a male child is conceived.’ May that day be darkness; may God above not seek it, nor the light shine upon it” (Job 3:3-4). Later, Job wished for death. “Why is light given to him who is in misery, and life to the bitter of the soul, who long for death, but it does not come, and search for it more than hidden treasures” (Job 3:20-21). Long-term suffering without hope drives many to despair and the desire to end it all.

In 1 Samuel 1 we see the story of Hannah, one of two wives of Elkanah. The other wife, Peninnah, had children, but Hannah was unable to conceive. Peninnah arrogantly ridiculed Hannah and “provoked her severely, to make her miserable” (1 Samuel 1:6). At those times, Hannah “wept and did not eat” (1 Samuel 1:7).

Then one year when they had gone to worship at the tabernacle, “she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed to the Lord and wept in anguish” (1 Samuel 1:10). Hannah was indeed depressed. But the story has a very happy ending.

The book of 1 Samuel also records the sad reign of Saul, the first king of Israel. He started out well enough: tall, attractive, from a good family; it would seem he had everything going for him. But a series of bad decisions based on his pride and a wrong attitude took their toll, and before long Saul sank into the depths of depression.

Additionally, some of God’s own prophets went through very low periods when they wished they were dead. Elijah is perhaps the best known. He carried God’s judgments and warnings to several Israelite kings, including the despotic Ahab and his evil wife, Jezebel.

A high point of Elijah’s life came when he overthrew the 450 prophets of Baal at Mt. Carmel (1 Kings 18). He proved not only the power of God but the utter lack of power of the hundreds of pagan prophets. It seems Elijah should have been on top of the world, but he soon sank into the depths of depression after being threatened by Jezebel.

“Then he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness and sat down under a broom tree. And he prayed that he might die, and said: ‘It is enough! Now, Lord, take my life, for I am no better than my fathers’” (1 Kings 19:4).

Elijah was extremely tired physically and mentally, but he also needed to learn a lesson about God’s power and presence.

The Bible records other examples. We know Jeremiah went through periods of great grief and probably some depression.

Jonah suffered frustration, resentment, and discouragement over God’s decision not to destroy Nineveh (Jonah 4:8).

The apostle Paul experienced many types of great suffering, as he summarized in 2 Corinthians 11:23-26. However, the New Testament gives no evidence of Paul suffering any deep depression. Philippians 3:13-14 shows he knew the importance of “forgetting those things which are behind [because God’s grace gives us a clean slate and you can’t change the past] and reaching forward to those things which are ahead”—staying Christ-centered and focused on the goal of God’s Kingdom.

Paul’s epistles are filled with uplifting encouragement for others. Such encouragement can be found in Romans 8:18 and Romans 8:28, and 2 Corinthians 4, where he spoke of “our light affliction, which is but for a moment” (2 Corinthians 4:17). These verses have given great comfort, encouragement and inspiration to countless people over the ages. Paul’s example shows that depression comes not so much from what happens to us as from our perspective and attitudes about those happenings.

The point is that depression can also affect godly people. It’s not necessarily a character flaw or a sin that brings on depression, although these can be factors. Many of God’s servants went through low periods in their lives and sometimes suffered from depression and a desire to die. However, though they may have wanted God to end their lives, the Bible records no cases of them taking their own lives.

If we are depressed, we we must not let embarrassment hold us back from seeking help when we are depressed. In the next section, we consider the question: What does the Bible reveal about how God views suicide?

Are Those Who Commit Suicide Forever Condemned?

The Bible relates examples of depression of various kinds. It shows that depression and related emotional problems can afflict both those who follow God and those who don’t.

The Sixth Commandment says “You shall not murder.” This, of course, includes the murder of oneself. God alone gives life, and it is His alone to take. While we sympathize with those who are hurting and despondent, no scripture in the Bible condones suicide.

While there can be no doubt that taking one’s life is wrong, suicide is often a complex matter. Perhaps others are quick to judge and condemn people who take their own lives. But we should avoid the tendency to oversimplify this tragic type of death. Individuals who commit suicide often have been struggling with serious problems, such as depression, alcoholism or other forms of drug abuse. Taking one’s life isn’t the right way to deal with any trial, but the people who do are not thinking clearly.

Some wonder if the victims of suicide will be consigned to hellfire, to continue on in an agony worse than what they suffered in life. Will this happen? Would that be the action of a loving, merciful God?

The Bible reveals that the dead are just that—dead. They neither go consciously to heaven at death nor suffer torment in a burning hell. At death, there are no more thoughts. “For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing” (Ecclesiastes 9:5; compare Ecclesiastes 9:10). Because the dead have no consciousness, the Bible frequently compares death with sleep (John 11:11-14). That is wonderfully comforting because God’s Word teaches that the dead will one day wake up! Many people have wondered about what exists on “the other side,” and if you’re one of them, read our free study guide What Happens After Death?

The reality is that severe depression, often compounded by other problems and disappointments, can drive a person to suicide. The mental agony that accompanies clinical depression, or a bout of unending discouragement, can make suicide seem attractive because the sufferer expects his suffering to end at death. But this is not the answer, for it is not the end of the story. Those who die will live again.

The Bible reveals that all (including suicide victims) who never were converted to Christ’s way of life will still have their opportunity for salvation. God is the God of justice and great mercy. He “desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4). Those who aren’t in the first resurrection to eternal life will be resurrected in the second resurrection to a physical life, so they can learn God’s truth and have their opportunity for eternal life (Revelation 20:5; see also Revelation 20:11-13).

For more on all this, be sure to read “Suicide: Escape, Road to Hell or Neither?”.

Suicide is not the final end of a person’s life. Those who choose to end their lives will live again. This will be after Jesus Christ has returned to earth and is ruling the world!

Everyone will have the opportunity to repent and receive Christ’s healing of their minds and hearts. He is the One who “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalms 147:3). Knowing this should be very comforting to the loved ones of a person who has died in such a manner.

Every person will have the opportunity to live a peaceful and happy physical life, free of mental pain, as each one prepares for eternal life with God as part of His family!

And finally, when new heavens and a new earth are established, “God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying . . . There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:1; Revelation 21:4).

Let us all look forward to that time of awesome healing and restoration. For those who are suffering now, whether in depression and contemplating suicide or coping with the loss of a loved one to this horrible tragedy, there is light up ahead—the brightest day ever is coming. And the light of God can be found even today.

There is a way out of the dark right now—a way of hope and healing. May we all follow what God tells us in Jeremiah 29:13: “You will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.”

Suicide: Escape, Road to Hell or Neither?

Whenever a person, young or old, takes his or her life, it is such a tragedy. A void is left in the lives of those who knew and loved the person. And we know that the families and friends of people who “succeed” in committing suicide often suffer terribly, as they live with the loss and struggle to understand why their loved one died in this way. Questions remain about whether more could have been done to help pull a person back from the brink of self destruction. The survivors need a great deal of understanding and comfort as well.

And what of those who commit suicide? Have they really escaped their problems? Or are they damned to an eternity in hell? This is a major question among Christians dealing with this tragic subject. The real question is whether or not people’s suffering continues after death in an ever-burning hell. The answer is no. They are no longer suffering, and they are not damned for eternity.

Scripture shows that at death one’s thoughts end and there is no conscious awareness: “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going” (Ecclesiastes 9:10).

The mental agony that leads a person to commit suicide ceases while a person is dead. God, in His mercy, designed life so that at death the physical mind does not function. The hopes and dreams and fears of life end. So the suffering that leads one to take his life also ceases.

But suicide is not an escape or quick solution to one’s problems. When resurrected those who’ve taken their own lives will still likely have psychological issues to work out. They will still have to deal with their problems, and now with the addition of having to face up to a terrible wrong, the murder of self and the torment inflicted on others by that.

Thankfully, God’s desire is for them to turn to Him and be saved. But the things people do in this life will still have consequences in the sense of having to come to terms with them. This could be quite hard, so no one should think of suicide as some kind of golden ticket to the good life of the future. It is not.

Nevertheless, suicide victims are not eternally damned. They will live again in a better world with a revived opportunity for happiness and success.

Revelation 20:4-5 tells us that after the resurrection of the faithful followers of Jesus Christ at His return, “the rest of the dead” will be resurrected a thousand years later. Those who never had opportunity for salvation will at last have it. Jesus Christ came to heal the brokenhearted (Luke 4:18), but this was not fulfilled completely at His first coming. It will be fulfilled at His second coming.

God the Father, we are told, judges from the Mercy Seat. He dearly desires that all people who have lived, or will live, be in His family. Jesus Christ knows our frailty and therefore is our advocate at the right hand of our Father who is sitting on that throne of mercy. This includes all those who have suffered personally and taken their own lives.

The Father and Jesus Christ have not forgotten anyone. The brokenhearted, including those who committed suicide or even contemplated it, will ultimately be healed.

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